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If you've been on the internet recently, or even picked up a girly magazine you'll be well acquainted with the phrase "I like natural girls", from the 14 year old boy with a blog, to the 20 something student stopped in the street by a journalist. "My girlfriend wears too much makeup!" they cry, "I wish she was just natural!" But do they really mean that???? Nah, 'course not.
None of these guys want to see our acne scars, the dark circles under our eyes, the wrinkles we'd like to pretend aren't there, or the lizard-like scales we just must be hiding under all that slap. They don't want natural - they don't know the meaning of the word - they want "natural". In other words: they want the makeup, but they want us to hurry up about it.
There are literally thousands of youtube videos talking about what guys do and don't like in a girl (Nash Grier anyone??? Sorry shmee I'll never like him...It's his eyes Callie, how can they be so blue?!?!). No, I haven't watched all of them, but it's pretty accurate to say that all of them have one thing in common and that is that they like natural girls.
But they want us to look perfect and, well, that's just not something that'll be happening any time soon. That's why there are so many more video tutorials teaching us how to do "natural makeup". This fabulousness us girls radiate doesn't just happen (although, let's face it, we're pretty damn fab anyway), we need to work at it. Which means if we want to look like those models in the magazine, or the actresses on the big screen, we're going to be spending at least 10 minutes making sure we look *ahem* "natural". And even then, these photographs we see are likely to be edited, with or without the model's permission.
Even the unquestionably beautiful Scarlet Johansson looks a little different from her role as the beautiful but deadly Black Widow without makeup.
But saying that, no one needs to look natural if they want to wear makeup, and no one needs to wear makeup. It's our choice at the end of the day, no matter your gender identity, whether we are going to plonk ourselves in front of a mirror a slather on foundation or spend half an hour achieving perfectly pointed eyeliner. It's not done for anyone else - especially not some small minded human turd who thinks everyone should conform to their expectations.
You are your own person, and all you need to do is what makes you happy and what makes you comfortable. If what makes you comfortable is washing your face and leaving in the morning that's fine. The same goes for if you need a good foundation or the perfect lipstick to live your life. The only thing that matters is if you are comfortable and if you are happy, certainly not what some kid with internet access thinks. Don't think that what you do has to revolve around what others think, because it doesn't. If that person you like is particular about what they want girls to look like, they're probably not worth your time. Let alone worth you changing yourself for them.
Do what you want to be you. Don't conform to someone else's expectations of beauty, because however you want to look is as natural as anyone will get because it's who you are naturally.
As for me, am I natural? Yeah, naturally happy.
Callie
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