If your question starts with "so what do you want to do" and ends with "for the rest of your life?" you better just stop talking right now and get as far away from me as possible. Just shhhh. Nope - not today.
Be quiet, stop talking to me.
Don't even breathe near me.
I'm sick of people having nothing better to talk to me about other than my future.
Let's give this post some context first though, shall we?
Last weekend we had my sister's birthday party (cute little lady is 5 now, can I get an awww?) and my mother invited her own friend over and she brought her new boyfriend. All well and good I thought, and honestly, he was pretty alright. At least until we'd finished eating and everyone had scattered to either go to the bathroom or have their own conversations. Then it was just me and him. So, of course, it's only polite and natural to attempt to socialise by having a conversation, right? I thought so too until there was a lull and he just fired right in with the usual "so what do you want to do" followed by "for the rest of your life?".
I tried to avoid it a bit by just answering with what I wanted to study at university, because does he really need to know the rest? Apparently he did, because I then had to answer my top universities - or rather, I only answered two due to the fact that I was starting to panic and could only think of those. I just wanted to stab myself in the face right then when he finally asked what I would do after that - actually, it was phrased more like: "And do you think you're going to get a job after that?"
Do I think I'm going to get a job.
I'd feel a little bit better if he'd asked what sort of work I'd like to go into after uni, rather than someone else questioning whether I'm going to be employed or not. I already panic about whether or not I'll get into uni or if I'll get a job. I don't need other people questioning me when I'm already preoccupied with questioning myself.
The only time it's okay for people to talk to me about my future is if I'm visiting a god damn fortune teller, and that's only if I ask them to and they're okay with it. Other than that, I don't need to be constantly questioned about what I want to do.
I need to focus on what's going on right here and now rather than have a mental breakdown because I thought about my future for more than 3 seconds.
Yes, I understand that it's important that I have things planned out. But I don't need to be thinking about that everyday of the week throughout everything I do. And neither does anyone else.
Stop asking me about my future, because the more you do, the worse yours is looking. Like, seriously, I will spoil whatever book your reading. That is how far you've pushed me.
Sorry about that.
Bit of a change from a usual less angry post but this has been bugging the heck out of me. So, there's my rant about my future and how everyone just needs to take a large step back off a cliff on the topic. Do you ever feel like this? Does anyone ever ask you these questions to the point where you want to stab them with a spoon? Does the thought of the future make you curl up into a blanket burrito of anxiety?
Let me know in the comments.
Callie

